| | Foreword | p. xi |
| | Acknowledgments | p. xv |
| | Introduction | p. xix |
| | Discover the Sweet Spot of Success | p. 3 |
| | Look at Life with Adoption Savvy | p. 18 |
| | Beware of Mixed Feelings | p. 34 |
| | See the Big Picture | p. 44 |
| | Know When and How to Talk about Birth and Adoption | p. 58 |
| | Know That Being Different Is a Good Thing | p. 76 |
| | Settle the "Real-Parent" Question | p. 86 |
| | Step Up to the Plate with Confidence | p. 99 |
| | Evaluate Your Emotional Health | p. 108 |
| | Get Down and Dirty | p. 120 |
| | Discover What Really Comforts your Child | p. 134 |
| | Strive for Parent/Child Intimacy | p. 146 |
| | Redeem Insensitive Remarks about Adoption | p. 159 |
| | Honor Your Child's Birth Parents | p. 171 |
| | Refuse Guilt Trips | p. 185 |
| | Deal with Perfectionism | p. 197 |
| | Assess Stress | p. 207 |
| | Extablish a Support System | p. 215 |
| | Celebrate the Miracle of Your Family | p. 230 |
| | Press On in Hope | p. 243 |
| | Appendix | p. 251 |
| | Bibliography | p. 273 |